I asked Thea gently if she would like to tap on the bad dream and see if we could help her feel better and she nodded, in tears. She had been able to say things with me for the previous rounds but now she didn’t want to speak and so I began to tap, speaking for her.
Even though I had that really, really scary dream, I’m a lovely girl and Mummy and Daddy love me very much.
Even though I had that dream about dying, and it was so scary, I’m a good girl and my whole family really loves me.
Even though I had that scary dream, Mummy and Daddy love me and I’m safe now.
We began to tap on the dream and the fears that had been coming up for Thea about death, which I suspected concerned leaving Mummy and Daddy and not knowing what would happen to her, but Thea got very upset and I quickly realised that (unsurprisingly for a four-year-old!), these issues were just too big and upsetting for us to be able to work with in this way. I decided to try the “put it all in a box” technique. I asked Thea, “Shall we try something different? Would you like to put all these feelings in a big box and shut the lid?” Thea brightened up and nodded enthusiastically.
I told her to put the scary dream and all the horrible feelings into a box, and close the lid. “And lock it,” added Thea. “And it has two big ropes tied tightly in knots around it, and the ropes are made of really strong metal.” She got into the whole process with great gusto and enthusiasm, describing the sealing of the box at great length and with obvious enthusiasm, chiming in with her own words all the time. We began tapping:
Even though I’ve got this box, and it’s shut and locked, and it has two strong metal ropes knotted around it…
Even though I’ve got this box, and it’s made of very hard, hard wood, and the hinges are rusty so that nothing can open it…
Even though I’ve got this box, and it’s at the bottom of the rubbish dump, with rubbish on top of it, and nothing can open it…
Then we tapped round with Thea talking the whole time:
...and the box has hard wood around it too
...and it has metal walls around it too
...and it’s really small so that the things in it can’t move much
...and the metal ropes are tied in such tight knots that you can’t untie them and so on.
I was wondering where it was all going to go as we kept on tapping – Thea showed no signs of wanting to stop and the box was getting more and more covered in impenetrable layers! She was however looking increasingly more cheerful. Suddenly, Thea said, “Now the feelings in the box are burning.” We kept tapping and Thea kept speaking:
...and some fairy sprinkle magic is going on the box too…
...and the stuff in the box is burned now, it’s gone.
I asked her, “Is it all gone?” and Thea replied, “Yes.” Then she added, “And now the whole box has disappeared. God has made it vanish.” At which point she calmly got down and ran off upstairs to have her bath! When I came in later to see her, she was able to chat to me calmly about some of the issues that had been worrying her previously: “Why do they bury you under the ground, Mummy? I don’t want that. What else could they do? – and we had an interesting discussion about cremation!! And I’m happy to report that she subsequently had to jump out of the bath to have a poo…
I just wanted to note that Thea had told me nothing about the actual bad dream the morning after having it. The deep fear involved only seemed to come up as something she could discuss after we tapped on her physical symptom – maybe it’s difficult for small children to articulate their thoughts and feelings about big issues. I’m grateful that EFT gave us the chance to broach this fear of Thea’s and also, hopefully, to clear something which was affecting her physical and emotional well-being.
PS from Gary: It may also be useful to address the specifics of the dream with EFT as well as her individual fears. This can often lead deeper and more thorough results
The case if taken from the EFT Gary’s Craig site: www.emofree.com with his approval but the case description is solely the responsibility of the writer of the case.