I started tapping my karate point, mom copied and lo and behold, this very distracted child, started copying his mom. I did a setup, speaking as if I were Billy:
Even though I am very upset about hurting my mom, I didn't mean to do it, it was only an accident, I am still a neat kid.
Then, I did a standard EFT round, tapping all the points, including the fingers, using reminder phrases like: I am really a kind and thoughtful boy, I would never hurt anyone on purpose, I am upset about all this, I can calm myself down, it is all over now and I can go on with other things, my mom is ok now, I am a good kid and my mom knows this and she loves me no matter what...
After the first round, he was a bit better, but it took two more rounds to get him completely calm. I couldn't ask him to rate his level of intensity because he would not have understood what that meant. But, by this time he was smiling, he looked at his mom's hand as if nothing were wrong; he hugged his mom cheerfully, and seemed perfectly content. We proceeded with his lesson, and he had one of the best, most productive lessons I think we have ever had! (With mom's permission, we are going to use EFT at each lesson to possibly help him to speak less mechanically and to learn with more ease).
I plan on finding ways to help other handicapped kids, not just on my caseload but many, many others. There are so many kids who have behavioral outbursts or anxiety issues and the schools tend to punish them, restrain them or put them in 'seclusion rooms.' These seclusion rooms have been in the news recently as being just disastrous and even dangerous for these kids. They are being shut down (thank goodness) but the school personnel have nothing to use instead. How wonderful it would be if we could give them the skills of EFT to help these kids! I am not quite sure how I am going to proceed with this mission, but I know that I will first need to study all the DVDs and get lots more practice.
I have other stories about my teenage son (adopted and coming to us with FASD (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome) and resultant ADHD, CAPD (Central Auditory Processing Disorder), various Learning Disabilities and much more. I have taught him to use EFT but he usually 'fights' me on this, so I surrogate tap for him with great results.
Thank you, Gary, for giving us this gift of EFT. And thank you to all who write your stories in the newsletter because they have taught and continue to teach so much.
Special Ed Teacher/Consultant/Advocate
The case if taken from the EFT Gary’s Craig site: www.emofree.com with his approval but the case description is solely the responsibility of the writer of the case.